I want to talk about Habit & Happiness. I always think, are these two co-related? Because I strongly believe that your Happy Life depends on your daily habits.
When I was talking with a friend of mine, we discussed habits. I said I never had a feeling like I should have a six-pack or something; I always wanted to be fit and energetic. For that, I don't need to hit the gym every day; I just need to do simple exercises daily with good food habits.
I've seen a lot of students who study so hard to get a seat in their dream college or university. Once they get it, they just chill and forget what they are doing. You can visualize it if you are someone here.
I put it this way: Habit is something that you do Every Day. If you set a goal to have a six-pack or to get a rank, that will be done in some time, but what do you do after getting that? Do you again fall back into a fat body?
Most people take a habit like a goal, but it won't work like that in the long term. Once you achieve that, you don't have the motivation or desire to be consistent.
That is why most people who get a rank or get six back will quickly go back to their previous position because they see the habit as a goal, and when they reach it, they don't have the motivation to move forward. Maybe that's the reason many young, rich folks often struggle with depression, because they don't know what to do with their lives.
So, if you want to develop a habit, don't look at it as a goal. It's a task that you do every day, even if you lose or win.
If you keep the Materialistic things in the first place for your happiness, then I promise you will never find true happiness.
Think of this: Let's say I'll be happy when I have a big house or earn one crore per year. I'm just going a bit philosophical, but truly, we never know when we are going to die.
I just saw a video yesterday where a student died of a heart attack in class, so life is unpredictable, and it has strange ways. You never know what's going to happen tomorrow, not even after reading this.
I can't wait until I buy a house or earn one crore per year. Fuck this. No one knows what will happen tomorrow; what you can control is today, and when you are alive, be happy and spend time on things that you truly love.
Never depend on another person for happiness; if that girl or boy says yes, then only I'll be happy. Who the heck is she or he to decide your happiness? If you want to be happy, you can be happy at any time.
This is my perspective on habits and happiness, and I might be completely wrong. I always say don't be a follower (don't just blindly follow whoever says it), be a student (gather information and see what's working for you, and ignore the rest).
Hope it helps :)